While it is usually just the Maid of Honor and Best Man who give speeches at the reception, sometimes couples will ask people to speak during the ceremony or have additional friends/family members give a speech at the reception. While this can be a huge honor, it's also a lot of pressure - you have to know where the line is to decide whether or not to tell that embarrassing story about the couple having food poisoning in Cabo last summer. For some couples, they won't mind a light roasting, but others may want the speech to be more Hallmark and less MTV. Have we mentioned that Fusion does wedding videography? That means, we're capturing every second of your speech and you don't want to be the section of the video that the couple fast forwards through. Here are some things to consider before writing a speech for a wedding.
Do Take The Time To Prepare
Every once in a while, we hear someone start their speech with "I didn't really write anything down, I just wanted to say congrats you guys." Ugh! Ya'll, this couple asked you to speak at their wedding - Uncle Teddy who they haven't seen in 13 years can congratulate them - you need to do better than that. Write down some bullet points at the very least. And if during your prep, you aren't sure what to say, try to think of a story from a time you were with the couple. Make it personal and put some thought and time into it.
Don't Go Rogue
Okay, in this case, we mean read the room. If you know this couple is pretty buttoned up or they want everything to be classy for their 90 year-old grandmother, don't write a speech full of profanity and embarrassing stories. If the couple is having a more laid-back wedding, then use your best judgement when you're writing the speech. Sometimes we see people say things because they want to say them but they don't fit the vibe of the day. Don't treat the speech like it's your personal stand-up special on Netflix. Say a few paragraphs and hand the mic back.
Look at this guy's preparation!
Do Go The Extra Mile
We understand you might not be able to always do this, but if you can add some pizzazz to your speech, you're definitely going to be one of the highlights of the day when the couple looks back. This might mean you add in a slideshow of photos of the couple. Maybe a family member or friend couldn't make it and you know the couple was down about it - have that person send you their well-wishes to read or a video to play. Your role in this wedding is a huge opportunity to show the couple how much you care and a little thoughtfulness goes a long way.
Don't Forget To Have Fun
Even if public speaking isn't your jam, try to have fun! The speech is only going to last a few minutes and then your part is over - but the couple is going to cherish your words and your role in their big day long after you step away from the mic.
Fusion's photographers and videographers have heard a lot of wedding speeches. And the best ones come from a place of honesty and love. Whether we're your wedding videographer, your engagement photographer, or capturing family portraits, that's at the heart of what we're trying to get on film - honesty and love.